As I think most of us understand and realize… people come into our lives to teach us life lessons and skills. They are usually a “mirror” for healing that we are needing within ourselves.
Back in the late summer I “called” in a person to work for who taught me a great deal about myself! I thought working for him was going to finally be my “home” and a place I could rest my hat for a while since he allowed me to be creative in using the skills I possess. Wrong! He pushed every button I have….multiple times a day!
I took a step back and asked “what does he have to teach me?” From here I enlisted a good friend of mine, Mary Ligon, as my life/business coach to get to the bottom of the anxieties/frustrations that were bubbling up to the surface as a result of this new “job”. She began by having me take the Winslow Personality Test. I was shocked to see how low I scored in: Assertiveness, Mental Toughness, Self Control, Self Confidence and Contentment. These were all areas I had been very strong in years ago but the last few years took it’s toll and where I was once “super woman”, I now had become “super wimpy”.
She began working with my “core values” and “beliefs”….and after a couple of sessions…I could begin feeling all of these weak areas improving. I was taking control of my life and standing up for myself!! I no longer allowed my boss to talk down to me, manipulate me or bully me. I held fast to my beliefs. So much so that he began saying I was “opinionated”! WOW! That’s a first! But who says that having strong opinions is a bad thing? Doesn’t it truly mean that you believe in yourself enough to not back down the minute there is a little opposition?
Needless to say, my boss (who was all the things that I wasn’t) and I began to see things differently. Even though I knew he respected my expertise, knowledge and ideas…I think he was becoming a little intimidated by the woman who was growing in her self-confidence!
It was the perfect place for me to be for those months…but now I realize that rather than building up someone else’s business it was time to build up my own!
Everything happens for a reason!